View each situation as an opportunity to work together on common goals. Convey to your child that you are in it together. Try to compromise. For example, "We both want you to be able to play video games, so in order to do that, you need to clean up your room.
Help your teen to identify their own feelings, but also the feelings of others. When they are able to put themselves in someone else's shoes, they may gain a new perspective.
Adolescents often like to debate. This can be done constructively.
Even if your adolescent's hostility and anger does not promote warm feelings, always do your best to approach each discussion with a supportive attitude. Your teen will be more likely to respond better. For example say things like, "I know we both get frustrated when you lose your temper, but lets see if we can understand what happens when you start getting mad and come up with some solutions." This statement lets your teen know that you are standing by them.
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